"John and I are friends" vs. "John and me are friends"


I was corrected in the middle of a conversation because I used "John and I are friends" as opposed to "John and me are friends."

I think the former sounds correct, but am not sure. Could someone help?


Posted 2017-04-22T04:39:34.053

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Question was closed 2017-04-22T12:34:29.047

3The former ("John and I are friends") is considered "correct" from a prescriptive point of view. The latter is common colloquially, but I don't think it's common enough to make the first sound wrong to a majority of speakers (from a descriptive standpoint). I would say the person who "corrected" you put their foot in their mouth. The sentence was fine the way you said it. – sumelic – 2017-04-22T04:49:32.070

1Actually, even in colloquial speech, "John and me are friends" seems less likely than a third option, "Me and John are friends." – sumelic – 2017-04-22T04:59:23.117



One would say I am friends with John, not Me am friends with John.

Hence I am convinced you are right and it should be John and I are friends.

But one might say Harry is friends with John and me.


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"I" and "me" are both first singular pronouns. They are used by a person to refer to himself; however, "I" is the doer of the action while "me" is the receiver of the action.

That is why grammarians and teachers insist on using "I" when it is in the place of a subject and "me" when it's in a place of an object.

So the formal choice, especially in writing, is

John and I are friends.

and it is considered the correct form because if you take "john" out, the sentence is transformed to

I am a friend.

The subject pronoun remains the same and there is a consistency.

Further reading: http://www.learnersdictionary.com/qa/when-to-use-i-and-when-to-use-me


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